Let’s Talk About That Baby

Let’s Talk About That Baby

Let’s Talk About That Baby. A real article that confronts the topic of PND for what it is, honestly, so please give it a read.

My thanks to the blog author, Robin Riedstra, who although I’ve only found recently, I’ve been super interested in her articles because of their honesty and interesting subjects, so keep up the awesome work, Robin!

Yes,  that woman needs help and if there was more pr in hospitals, at the Dr surgery or that we moved to a place in the future women just knew that there were places that would take care of them, or their baby, when things got too much, with no judgement, just real, honest long-term support and continual care.

Oh yes, I know it’s only a dream, but hey, I’m allowed to, aren’t I?

If you’re feeling sad, down or worried that you may harm or neglect your little one, please get in touch with beyondblue.org.au immediately as they will have staff on hand to support you through this time. Your other option is to get in touch with your GP, or PANDA.

Wanna give your creative business a HUGE boost?

Wanna give your creative business a HUGE boost?

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You’ve got to subscribe to ‘tickle the imagination’ TODAY so you don’t miss out on this one!

For under $50 you get your crafty BFF the gift that keeps on giving all year – and it’s a great excuse to catch up!

Get together each issue and get crafty and creative together. You can pre-organise yourselves, pop down to Spotlight to grab your supplies and then have an afternoon of crafty goodness. Or you could get the plans for the next kiddo’s birthday party done and dusted – and impress all of the other Mum’s! Ahhh…

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S’mores recipes and fun things you can do with the kids to enjoy yourselves a little campfire party…
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Jazz up the loungeroom with some cute pom pom pillows!
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Strawberry layer cake recipe and inspo! Just gorgeous!

 

 

Ooh, wait, the best part is, if you’re a crafty yourself and you’ve been looking for that little boost you need to make your dreams come alive then you need to get onto this TODAY!

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You see, you’ve got to be a ‘tickle’ subscriber to enter and that, my friends, is why I’m seriously hurrying you along – Forming Circles are offering three grants of $1000 PLUS an additional $1000 of advertising (seriously, guys, this is what I do for a living and that’s a great start!) to get your dream soaring.

I don’t want you to miss out because, frankly, I love chatting to you all and adore that you bother following me and reading this! And also, I’m really super keen for the winner to tell me all about their dream and why they took the plunge and entered – there’s an interview in that – just lemme know or I’ll chase you up! 🙂

But, you’ve only got until midnight on 23rd November because that is when the applications close.

So kids, get off your butts, dig deep and remember your dreams and why you keep thinking about that while you should be finishing the books for your boss!

Good luck possums!
Mrs Jones x

Proud mama…

Proud mama…

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So very proud of my styling project that my boy helped me with…

I was organising my Christmas Decorations shoot and this is what he helped with!

Not bad for a 10-year-old!

Do you know about ‘The Grommet’…

Do you know about ‘The Grommet’…

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Have you checked out The Grommet?

The Grommet is an awesome online store that launches undiscovered products and helps them succeed – Grommets. Grommets aren’t just things. Grommets are products with a purpose invented by people with stories.

 

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A Grommet is an innovative, unique product that is created by a Maker with a story to tell. Often a Grommet is new to market or has not yet been broadly discovered. Grommets are ready to find a wider audience and their product launch platform gives them the amplification and attention they deserve.

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Special attention is paid to underrepresented entrepreneurs: People under age 25, people over age 65, and women of all ages. These entrepreneurs tend to have a harder time raising capital and striking partnerships because their profile does not match the typical stereotypes of a successful company. The founders and creators of Grommets also tend to be building businesses that align with one or more of these values:

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Preserving a handcraft
Solving a problem in a fresh way
Creating jobs in a struggling or developing region
Building a social enterprise
Fostering green and eco-friendly practices
Manufacturing in the USA
Inventing a new technology

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So, although Grommets don’t tend to be Australian, they don’t seem to have a specific policy against us Aussies trying to make a Grommet so get yourself making, makers! And anyway they are a U.S company so more luck to them!

But the reason I’m telling you about all of this is because you’re sure to find something totally original to pop in the stocking of somebody special this year.

So get to it and start shopping!

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meh…

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just thought I’d share my ‘meh’ day today. quick and simple.

as my regular readers know I’ve had back problems that caused me to be hospitalized and I’m now on the long road to rehab.

now I have a ‘hooray’ moment – I’ve been accepted into the pain clinic officially. and seriously, honestly and truly I am so thankful for this and so very committed to learning, changing and getting control of my pain.

but…

here comes my selfish ‘meh’ moment. after two separate appointments at an hour each, plus another three earlier this week, I’m kinda fresh out of ‘yee ha’ and now into ‘meh’ mode.

I’ve got to commit two afternoons and six hours a week to this. my ‘meh’ isn’t because I’m being selfish about my time, it’s more about the fact that I’ve now got to find somebody to look after Miss E for six hours a week (that’s a fair bit to put on a 15-mth old, as well as the carer/s) and I’ve got to find somebody to pick up The Boy after school. I’ve also got to fit this around my life and it’s not just the hours it’s also the brain hours and body hours that I’ll be suffering with…

meh…

I’m just tired thinking about it already.

but, my friends, as you know my back is super-bad and my pain (as you may not know) is pretty much constant to the point where I’m currently on a fair bit of rather serious medication and I have a hydrotherapy and a Pilates session already each week.

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argghhhhh… this is usually where the anxiety kicks in and I have a mild breakdown. I’ve already pretty much withdrawn from all social and not-really social but necessary for community-life currently because I just cannot do that along with constant pain.

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Plus looking after husband and children, plus putting my health first, plus keeping food on the table the house reasonably clean (that actually does make me crazy!), plus organising my husbands 40th birthday, having his relatives come to stay from interstate, add to that this blog (which keeps me sane because I adore it), and what I consider my ‘real work’, Mrs Jones & Me, which really does keep me sane and gives me contact with other women who are trying to do it all and run a creative business at the same time.

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I’m kinda unsure how I’m going to honestly continue to share ‘slowing down life’ tips with you while things are at this pace because I’m hardly doing that, am I?

But you know what… I’m gonna take few deep breaths, have a line of Cadbury Top Deck (my fave!) and find a way to fit everything in without having a total breakdown. I think…

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Whew!

I feel better after venting.

Apologies about that…

Love to you all and stay tuned to see how I fit it all in…

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Love Mrs Jones x

Freebie Alert! Subscribe to tickle the imagination…

Freebie Alert! Subscribe to tickle the imagination…

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Hello Darlings!

I just wanted to let you know that Issue 17 of ‘tickle the imagination’ is now out in your local newsagent! And if you can’t find a copy, please let me know and I’ll get right onto making sure they start stocking it or stocking more!

If you’ve read my previous post on ‘tickle’ you’ll know that I’m an Official Ambassador for the magazine because I’ve been in love with it for some years now and after meeting Tanya asked for something to be done about this! 😉

If you’ve not read ‘tickle the imagination’ and you’re a crafty, vintage-loving or creative lass you’ll just adore it! It’s full of all things handmade and creative in Australia through the ‘tickle’ online community and magazine.

 

Now apart from subscribing and getting a chance to win some ‘tickle’ goodies, I’m also running a competition too. So just to ensure you get a fair and, well kinda awesome extra few opportunities, at winning yourself some ‘tickle’ goodness click on the link below as well as subscribing and you’ll get even more chances at winning!

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‘tickle the imagination’ is full of inspiration and ideas to spark creativity – by showcasing talented artists, crafters and designers, discovering emerging talent and sharing real-life stories and DIY projects.

But I just wanted to remind you that if you take out a subscription – ooh, AWESOME idea for your Bestie, your sister-in-law or any other creative girl you know – you’ll also get a gorgeous necklace – you can see it in the picture at the top of the page.

Now, I’m not telling you to be naughty here and keep it yourself (but you could!), or just wrap it up and give it to your giftee who will be so darn excited and frankly, I think they’ll be hard pressed to not adore you forever!

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tickle the imagination magazine is available nationally in newsagents and independent stores (click here to see ourstockists) but I find that it sells out rather quickly, so it’s heaps easier to subscribe here online (and remember if you subscribe this month you’ll be in the running to win a gorgeous birdynumnum dreamer – there’s another Christmas gift just for you!

So my friends, be inspired by gorgeous images, take a peek into the lives of Australian designers & makers and discover ways to include creativity & handmade into your everyday living.

Do something nice for yourself this Christmas and buy yourself a subscription – then each quarter you’ll have the gift of creativity delivered straight to your door!

Love, Mrs Jones x

16 – 22nd November is PND Awareness Week…

16 – 22nd November is PND Awareness Week…

Postnatal Depression Awareness Week is 16-22 November.

Help raise awareness and reduce the stigma.

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Ahhh, pregnancy… do you remember yours fondly? Perhaps yours was awful and filled with illness and worry? Perhaps everything was great, until you started worrying and feeling depressed? Or perhaps everything was fine until about 6 weeks after you’d settled back in at home and then it hit you. You are now responsible for a whole other little person who totally relies on you and you can’t back out now…

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Did you know that up to one in 10 Australian women will experience depression during pregnancy. This increases to one in seven in the year following birth. Anxiety is thought to be even more common.

Now here’s where I give you my story to inspire YOU to be HONEST with others to CHANGE people’s lives and STOP THE STIGMA AROUND DEPRESSION.

I’ve suffered from mental illness since I was about 16 – anxiety and depression – and because I am treated by a psychiatrist both of my pregnancies were closely monitored by medial and psych staff to ensure that I wasn’t succumbing to depression.

My first pregnancy, although filled with constant vomiting and feeling hideous, was fine in regards to depression and anxiety. At six-days old my son was rushed into hospital and there he stayed for 6 weeks with heart problems, accidental overdoses by his medical team and a number of other ghastly issues; still I stayed ‘together’. In fact, I kept things ‘together’ in regards to his illness, my subsequent divorce and our battle to survive alone for another 4 years! I did pretty darn well, I think! Sometimes however, survival mode kicks in and you just can’t have the time, nor introspection to deal with a deep depression that is lurking in the background.

Over the coming years I suffered on and off with severe bouts of anxiety and depression – but didn’t allow myself to explore the reason behind it – probably due to the fact that I felt so bloody lucky that my boy survived that I didn’t really want to bring back all of the drama and feelings that I had about being on the very, very knife-edge of losing him. So, I pushed it down and talked with my psychiatrist about other ‘issues’!

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Nine years down the track, in a wonderful new marriage with a fantastic husband and a well, happy and kinda awesome 9-year-old son, I blessedly became pregnant again (hooray!!!!!)) and yes, I suffered – although I believe it wasn’t actually possible, much worse all-day hyperemesis (that’s constant nausea and vomiting). Also 41 isn’t your prime time to reproduce ladies – there is a name for us in medical circles and it’s a geriatric pregnancy! Humph!

This baby was the one I had prayed for. I had dreamed and begged and not been able to get the urge away that I needed to have another. For any guys reading this, I’m sure it’s biological – you just cannot be rational about it!

So when she arrived, she was perfect – okay, we had 24 hours in the special care nursery, but after my previous experience that was nothing! Everything was super, super awesome and I was so blissfully happy with my new bubba, my gorgeous boy and my darling husband that I didn’t put my finger on the little signs that had begun.

Things I was very much used to being aware of… unexplained worry about grand and insane tragedies that may befall my baby, my son or my husband. A constant feeling of unease. A few all-night insomnia bouts not related to the baby.

Yep, the anxiety had started and started in a big way. My psychiatrist and I had been planning for any potential PND and it happened pretty much right on time! Six to eight weeks after the birth…

So what was to be done?

Well we increased my daily medication, I had more frequent appointments with her and I began to learn the technique of mindfulness to combat the feelings – at times this works, at others, not so much! But I have been very, very blessed to be surrounded by amazing health professionals and a husband who has suffered depression before and felt it was very important to know what signs to look for in me so that we could attack the PND before it got any worse.

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So, two totally different pregnancies; two totally different first months of looking after a baby – boy child was looked after by nurses at the Royal Children’s Hospital, and missy was home in three days; two totally different situations in regards to my personal happiness and situation at the time (first marriage – abusive and frankly, awful and frightening on most levels – this time around I learned and learned well – we’re true partners, deeply in love and are happy, oh, and we laugh all the time!).

So girls, Post Natal Depression can strike you regardless of your situation, your personal feelings about parenthood, marriage, career or life, you can get it when you’re a normally happy-go-lucky woman or somebody who is more sedate and a planner. There seems to be no correlation other than you’re at a higher risk if you suffer from depression, or have had episodes prior, or if you suffer from anxiety. Also lack of sleep is a huge monster that makes PND much, much worse and as we know babies don’t like it when you sleep!

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My friends: I ask that you do something to change our world. Something in honour of your own mother, your female friends, your male friends, husbands, wives, mothers and fathers.

RAISE AWARENESS OF POST NATAL DEPRESSION.

There is NOTHING to be ashamed of in suffering from a mental illness – I discuss my experiences because I am DETERMINED to show that you can be a normal, unscary, and contributive member of society, a mother, a wife, a volunteer and a businesswoman and suffer. Yep, some times (not days, but weeks and sometimes months) are worse than others, but at 42 I’ve learned a lot about what gets the ‘black dog’ off my back quicker than I used to be able to and I’m in control of my illness – it DOES NOT control me.

So DO NOT BE AFRAID TO SHARE YOUR STORY – it will help others. It will give others the courage to speak out and share. And it will help others to seek treatment.

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How can you help? It’s easy-peasy! Just hop on over to beyondblue.org.au where they’ve got lots and lots of great materials that you can download, as well as helpful advice for mamas-to-be, dads-to-be and new parents.

There are also some other ways to get involved, you can:

  • Pop on over to the beyondblue’s Just Speak Up campaign website and add YOUR voice to the campaign. Take a look around the site and you’ll find lots of great stories to inspire and support
  • You can change your social media profile pictures to the Just Speak Up profile badge
  • Display the badge on your blog or other forum (you’ll see mine is over there on the side!)

More practically, you could:

  • Hold an event to raise money for beyondblue and you can even order FREE resources (including information booklets and flyers for women and their families as well as posters and postcards) to hand out
  • Display Just Speak Up posters on your community or work notice boards.
  • Include information about perinatal anxiety and depression in your workplace newsletter.
  • Include a link to the beyondblue and Just Speak Up websites on your workplace intranet and/or website.

Here are some files that may help you out!

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Good luck and remember NEVER be ashamed to be yourself. You are you and you are good enough JUST AS YOU ARE! The world only has one of you and it would be a lesser place without you.

I would LOVE for you all to share your experiences on depression, anxiety and also PND here and hope we can all be of support to each other – it does help a lot!

With extra-special hugs and hand-holding courage,
Mrs Jones x

Some Vintage Goodness I’m Sending Out…

Some Vintage Goodness I’m Sending Out…

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Just thought you’d enjoy a little pop of vintage goodness. Over at ‘With Love, Mrs Jones’ my event management business I’m 5 months out from a biggish event that I’m running called ‘This Is War!’. I’ve gone and themed it all WWII and today I’m beginning to send out Sponsor Packs to the lucky businesses that we’re asking to support the weekend.

It’s just packed with vintage-goodness, right down to manilla folders and paper fasteners, old army logos and just the right fonts, as well as some vintage airmail stickers and other vintage inspired bits and bobs!

If you’ve got some vintage goodness talents – around the WWII era style – and you’d like to get on board for entertainment, just looking gorgeous and hanging around in uniform, volunteer to help out, or similar, pop an email in the ‘post’ and I’d love to have a chat!

It will be held in Melbourne, Box Hill to be exact, on the weekend of April 18 & 19 next year (2015), so if you think you can add some mid-century spice to the weekend I’d love to hear what you’ve got in mind!

Got to dash!
Love, Mrs Jones x

Giving Thanks or ‘Friendsgiving’…

Giving Thanks or ‘Friendsgiving’…

I’m now featuring on MumCentral.com.au and here is the article we’ve published for November – An Aussie Thanksgiving!

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This month I thought I’d share a tradition my family has taken on – Thanksgiving. Not the American kind, but a very special Aussie kind that is much less stress, more fun and heaps easier than all of the dramas that come with Christmas!

Are you on board? Yup. Okay, first, a quick history lesson…

Thanksgiving Lowdown

Moving into 2014 things have changed a little. Thanksgiving is officially celebrated on the fourth Thursday in November – this year it’s on the 27th; it’s a major US holiday and the focus is on travelling to be with family, giving thanks and giving to others.

“Yawn. I’m not American, Mrs Jones.”

Don’t leave me here! I know, I know, we’re not American, Thanksgiving has nothing to do with us, and we’ve already got enough to do each year before Christmas! I hear you! I know… Once you become a wifey or a mama the fun stops and it becomes all about everyone else and making sure ‘stuff’ happens.

Gifts purchased. Tick. Oh, wait, didn’t the boy ask for that new water pistol they’re advertising now – two weeks before Christmas – and I can’t find them anywhere… Arghhh… That’ll have to wait!
Menu organised. Tick… wait a minute… I’ve got to find a bloody recipe for my brother’s vegan girlfriend… Do I need to get her a non-leather dining chair? Hmmm… That’ll wait.
Dinner or lunch. Still deciding.
Their place or ours. Can’t we just stay here for the day. Just once? Packing the kids up for another car trip is just too much. I’ll talk to hubby and see if his parents will come here.
Real or fake tree. I know the kids want a real one but do I want to vacuum pine needles for 4 weeks running?
Re-decorating the tree. Tick! I’ll redo it once the kids have gone to bed.

Okay, so we’ve established that Christmas is pretty much about everyone but us!

Hmmm… but what if things were different?
What if there was a celebration YOU actually enjoyed?
What if you could have a fun, relaxing and easy get-together leading up to Christmas that became something the whole family looked forward to?

Girls, you can! And that celebration is Aussie Thanksgiving!

Quick, easy and simple as you like. Take a look at the infographic below.

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Just remember a few of my KISS (Keep It Simple Sweetie) principles:

  1. You’ve got to invite REAL friends. People you know and love and WANT to spend time with!
  2. Keep the food simple. Barbecuing is an awesome idea because there’s little prep and it keeps the men busy and it also means you can ask friends to each bring a side dish
  3. Keep dessert simple. Ice cream cones or if you want to go crazy, an ice cream decorating bar for the kids (big and small!)
  4. Have some outdoor and indoor game ideas for when the kids get bored
  5. Ask everyone to bring a food donation (there’s your giving to the less fortunate)
  6. Make some time for everyone to sit together and get real. What is everyone really thankful for?
  7. Here’s the best part. Australian Thanksgiving ISN’T on the fourth Thursday in November, it’s on the fourth SATURDAY. This gives you time and headspace.

So that, my darlings, is it!
It’s that simple.

Now, I don’t want to hear any, “Seriously, I don’t have enough time now, why on earth would I add ANOTHER thing to our already insane schedule?”

Why? Well, girls, let me tell you why.

Because you can. Yep, it’s that simple.

Also because if you don’t start making time to simplify life, and start a few family traditions your kids will have nothing magical to look back on. This is easy peasy and kids will look back on this as such a fun time spent playing with friends, with no timetable to work to. A time of shared food, laughing until it hurts and coming together to do something good for those who need it.

Now my darlings it’s time to make this tradition yours! Take a deep breath, take charge, simplify a few things and make time to fit it in – I promise you won’t regret it!

I’d love to hear your stories of how your Aussie Thanksgiving went and any tips you’d like to share with others!

With Love
Mrs Jones x