Let’s Talk About That Baby

Let’s Talk About That Baby

Let’s Talk About That Baby. A real article that confronts the topic of PND for what it is, honestly, so please give it a read.

My thanks to the blog author, Robin Riedstra, who although I’ve only found recently, I’ve been super interested in her articles because of their honesty and interesting subjects, so keep up the awesome work, Robin!

Yes,  that woman needs help and if there was more pr in hospitals, at the Dr surgery or that we moved to a place in the future women just knew that there were places that would take care of them, or their baby, when things got too much, with no judgement, just real, honest long-term support and continual care.

Oh yes, I know it’s only a dream, but hey, I’m allowed to, aren’t I?

If you’re feeling sad, down or worried that you may harm or neglect your little one, please get in touch with beyondblue.org.au immediately as they will have staff on hand to support you through this time. Your other option is to get in touch with your GP, or PANDA.

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Nice Day for a Picnic…

Nice Day for a Picnic…

Basil Bangs Picnic RugFeeling like a picnic?

It doesn’t matter whether you’re at the beach, in the garden or on the back deck, the Basil Bangs Love Rug from ‘Top 3 by Design’ marks your spot with very cool vintage style.

The Love Rug, a collaboration with “We are Handsome”, is perfect for a family picnic, at the beach or just relaxing on your favourite grassy patch on the back lawn – or if it’s raining, bring it inside for use as a play mat.

The Basil Bangs Love Rug features:
– A spacious family size 1.8m diameter circular size
– Internal urethane padding for comfort
– Underside lined with water-proof backing
– Topside features sublimation printed, water-resistant outdoor polyester canvas
– Hidden pocket for stashing your phone, wallet and keys
– Contrast colour edging
– Padded carry handle
– Adjustable shoulder strap

With Love
Mrs Jones x

Do Me A Favour…

Do Me A Favour…

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Hello Friends,

Today was a strange day because I had to go to my grandfathers house and grab some of the things I wanted to keep before his house is sold. You see, he went into a nursing home a few months ago and it’s now time to sell his place. Grandma died a few years back and there was still a bit of her stuff there too.

It was a really weird feeling walking around his home, the home where he and Grandma had lived for over 20 years. It still smells the same and looks just as it did when he was there, but he wasn’t and he’s not going to live there again, so practicalities must take over and that’s why I was there.

It struck me, as I looked at his qualifications on the walls of his study, at his guitar in the corner, at the family photographs on every surface; that at the end of your life there is only a handful of ‘stuff’ to show that you were actually here. And unless you’re in people’s hearts and minds, there really isn’t much left at all…

And it got me thinking that life is incredibly short.

So quick.

So brief and you’d better make the most of it. You’d really better be you, truly and honestly you and not live somebody else’s life because all that will be left will be a handful of stuff that really wasn’t you anyhow.

So friends, I ask you to do this for me. Take stock. Just do a quick little inventory now. No matter how sucky, low long, how frustrating or how generally crappy your day has been today, please, just take a few minutes to think about this and do something for me now. First.

Take three slow, deep breaths. Take a look around you. Are you happy? Are you comfortable in your life. Happy with the person you show to the world? Are you being you?

The awesome, loving, kind, wonderful you.

You.

Just you.

Or are you unhappy. Are you feeling that life is sucking the fun and kindness out of you?

Take a moment. Take a moment to remember who you used to be when you were at your happiest. Perhaps it was only this morning before you made the lunches, the beds, did three loads of washing, made dinner, listened to the complaints, the whinging, put everyone to bed and it’s just now you’re finding a few minutes for a cuppa or a glass of wine. Then you can relax. Relax and find you. The happy person, the person who isn’t overwhelmed with life and it’s demands.

Perhaps it was a few years back, when you were happy. Maybe life has been crushing you slowly. Bills. Work. Negative people. Unhappy people. Mean, nasty people.

Perhaps you can’t even remember how long ago that it was when you were truly happy. Perhaps you’ve been eating too much. Maybe you just can’t find the energy to go for that run or walk you keep promising yourself you’ll find time for. Perhaps you’ve been controlling everything around you to try and find something you can grab onto.

Maybe you’re living with somebody who makes you feel small. Feel afraid. Feel worthless. Maybe you’re trying to escape, but you can’t because it’s all too overwhelming. Or you’re afraid for your life.

Well friends, today is it.

Honestly, today is the day.

There really mightn’t be another and do you really want all that you are, all that you’ve been to just be a pile of stuff that people will remember you by?

Think back to the feeling you used to get as a kid.

Remember how it felt to walk barefoot on the grass.

How it felt to have no responsibilities except for playing with friends and laughing. Having fun. Being you. That awesome, wonderful, gorgeous, happy, kind, loving you.

The you at your ‘you-est’.

Well the time has come to remember that kid.

Remember who you were and who you wanted to be; and who you actually still are inside and who you WILL show the world that you are again.

Stop the madness.

Get off the wheel.

Stop playing games and get real.

Stop the worrying. Stop the excuses. Now…

Make a change. A little one. A big one. Anything. Just do something to find that perfect person you feel is in the shadows and be that kid again.

Don’t waste another day letting others control you.

No longer will you let others control your destiny or make you feel that you can’t be you.

Do me a favour and just be you.

You’re good enough.

In fact you’re probably much more awesome than you’ve ever realised!

And whenever you start to forget who you are, remember walking barefoot in the grass; the smell, the cool feeling between your toes and how light and free you were. That kid is still there.

Be that person.

Be awesome and be you.

Always.

Love to you all

Mrs Jones x

Organizing Continued…

Organizing Continued…

Taa daa! I’m nearly done organizing my little crafty space! And… I’ve managed to find room for my collection of Japanese piggies, my Kewpies and my vintage religious icons too!

My wool has a new home, so that I can see what I’ve got…
My washi tape is happily organized into jars.
Knitting needles, crochet hooks and little bits and bobs are sitting amongst the Kewpie dolls.
My reference books, vintage and current knitting patterns are within easy reach and…
With all of this work comes a much clearer mind!

How did this amazing thing happen?

Well, my Physio, God bless that woman, gave me the all-clear with looking after bebe myself! Modified lifting, T.E.N.S. Machine for pain relief and physiotherapy, combined with patience and accepting I’m pretty much unable to use that arm as I did for the time being, is my reality. Hoorah!

And to ensure I keep Mother happy, I okayed a few things with the Physio – her continual questioning of the safety of crochet and knitting (the things keeping me sane!) whenever she saw me was starting to get a bit much!

My life is beginning to get back to normal at an albeit, physically slower, pace.

I’ve managed a one-armed, and occasionally helped, clean out and reorganising of my crafty workspace (just a few little things left to finish off) and I’m feeling able to breathe and think straight again…

I thought I’d share some pictures to show you I’m on the way! Hooray!

Love to you all,
Mrs Jones x

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Some Wonderful Vintage Advertising…

Some Wonderful Vintage Advertising…

Friends, I’ve been super-busy in Mama Land lately, which is why I’ve not been blogging and sharing the love. Honestly, it’s not that I don’t adore you all, it’s just that I’ve had to make some difficult decisions…

Gorgeous, Mr Jones and I had a truly honest and thought-provoking conversation last week that made both of us think about our priorities and how we both put so much effort into parenting and family that we’ve been neglecting the depth of our relationship, as well as the time we give to it…

I’ve moved a little ahead because at the end of the conversation we’d only worked out that we both put our kids before us, as a unit, every time and we really needed regular time to just talk (really talk!) and clear the air of any niggling worries or problems and really enjoy being together like we used to when we were dating…

This then got both of us thinking and after we went off on our week and each discussed the matter with a friend (him), therapist (me… I sound neurotic, but in promise I’m not! It was just that I had my appointment on the Monday!) these fantastic people both spoke a great amount of truth to us.

We both adore our kids – true. We both adore each other – true. But… As husband and wife we really need to stop over-thinking every little kid thing – they will probably turn out okay with the love, support and skills we’re giving ’em – and just enjoy the moment! Ahh… Live in the moment and stop over-analysing, stressing, borrowing worry and most of all that perfectly true quote that applies here, ‘Comparison is the thief of joy’! We don’t compare ourselves and worry about other families, but more that we both worry and ‘compare’ what we could have or should have done, or should be doing.

Relax. Enjoy. Appreciate. The moments that are our life.

Kinda simple really. Easier said than done though, so we are now endeavouring to truly put this into practice and take some time for ourselves, alone, to recharge and not think this will damage our kids because we are being selfish; enjoy our days and the ‘bits’ of life they’re made of; enjoy and compliment each other on the great job we are doing just by being loving, caring and honest to each other and our little family…

Whew, again this plan for a quick post has turned into a thesis! My plan was to show you these awesome, and rather funny – looking back nowadays – mid-century advertisements that will give you a laugh, and pause to think about just how our society’s values have changed… Like I’m going to! Hopefully, I’ll look back and laugh at how stressed I used to get… Hopefully ;/

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Matchy, matchy…

Matchy, matchy…
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Matchy, matchy mid-century modern goodness…

So, you can imagine my shock upon realising that I’ve been dressing my daughter the same as me without even realising it!

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Breakfast at Chez Jones

As we were partaking in breakfast this morning I looked at our pajamas and realised that, apart from hers having an awesome deer pattern on them, they were pretty much the same colours and style!

Yup, the style I like is so narrow that I’m pretty much finding mini versions of what I’d like to wear and what seems comfortable and easy to wash and putting the stuff on her!

I’m certainly not a fashionista (yes, I can hear the laughter from my friends as I type) and tend to mix up what’s current with my retro style, making it into something I can live with, and so it seems I am now doing this to Babyness!

The Boy has always known exactly what he likes and what he doesn’t, I’ve made a point of teaching him to think for himself and not follow trends (clothing or otherwise), and we agree on his choices most of the time… Then again, he’s a boy who really doesn’t care much for clothing.

I’ve got no presumptions on how Babyness will feel about clothing and her ‘style’ as she grows. I have days when I feel I simply must look awesome and this is reflected in the amount of time I spend on hair, makeup and clothing, but sadly, the majority of days involve a very simple, but workable, look that is mine. Jeans, black t-shirt, Converse or cute flats, plus if I’m feeling motivated I’ll ‘put on my face’ and do my hair in something other than a ponytail or pigtails (yep… 41 may be getting a little old to rock that look?!).

As a mother should I be setting a ‘better’ example of style and grooming for my daughter? Some would think so… Others may agree with my thinking and feel that there’s heaps more to me that takes precedence over how I look. It’s not that I don’t care how I look, or spend my days wearing pjs or sweats, it’s just that as long as I am clean, fresh and simply attired (albeit always trying to rock a retro edge!) I just don’t care enough about that sort of thing to spend too much time on it.

What about you? Are you always gorgeously dressed (Elkee from KarmicVintage I’m thinking jealously of you!)? How do you/would you dress your kids? Comfort or style? Is it even important to you? I’d love to hear your thoughts on the matter!

Here’s to a lovely, stylishly dressed day!

Love Mrs Jones x

On Being Thankful…

On Being Thankful…

I’m SO very much enjoying being a Mama second-time around! Not that I didn’t enjoy it with the boy in any way, I loved it! He honestly made me realise my own strength, ability to love and gave me insight and patience I never knew existed – not to mention showed me how it felt to have a piece of your heart walking around outside in the big ol’ world without protection! Scary, exhilarating and awesome…

Sadly, however, his early months coincided a very stressful marriage breakdown (aren’t they all) that involved alcohol abuse, threats and a great deal of fear and instability which resulted in a sudden lack of home for us. After having to move back in with my parents and start my ‘grown-up’ life all over again from scratch with not much more than our clothing and a car, meant I couldn’t relax and enjoy my sons early years. Money worries, concerns about his safety and our future meant that I could only concentrate on ensuring he was happy, safe and blossoming and I didn’t have time to actually ‘be’ in the moments of being a Mama for me.

This time, however, I have been gifted with the most blessed and happy marriage to a wonderful husband and father to both of my children, making this time around just wonderful. I am truly thankful for this truly amazing gift… a family of my own that is full of laughter, love and fun (don’t worry, we have crappy days too!). My own little family, my extended family, my wider church family and my friends truly make my days just awesome!

How about you? Are you able to enjoy the time you’ve got with your kids at the moment, or is there too much else on your plate? I’d love to hear where you’re at and how you find the headspace to enjoy your kids…

Love Mrs Jones x

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